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Nicolas Nelson's avatar

This is exactly what my wife and I counsel young couples, but you’ve said it better here. “Friendly fire” is a great metaphor for “quarreling badly”. Thanks for this, we may share it with others when this conversation arises again (and I’m sure it will).

(We’ve been married 34 years— the only reason I can’t promise to share this in conversation is my unreliable memory these days! I’ll print it and put it in my journal. That will help)

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Ronin's avatar

Congratulations. Wednesday is 14 years for us.

In premarital counseling our pastor told us we had to decide what three things are worth fighting over (renegotiate when necessary), every thing else wasn’t that serious. They’re discussions.

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